Entry #1: "How are you?"

Warning: If you aren’t stable enough or not open minded enough to read things that contains other perspective that can change your opinion or counterpart what you stand in please don’t read this. I will have more entry for you, soon. Don’t be hard headed okay? I don’t want to be the cause of your trigger.

Good day folks! How are you? Well, a simple question that can be answered in a yes or no isn’t? But to be honest that is one of the questions that roam in this world that can be really difficult to answer. Merely saying “I am fine thank you, how about you?” and so? What will happen next? Nothing.

You may all be wondering what the world am I saying, right? But just to be clear. My whole point is going to be discussed in 3 parts. I am fine, thank you and how about you. I. AM. FINE. Do you think if I say that to a stranger looking horrible will they believe me? Of course they wouldn’t, but what if I look really great looking so fresh and bubbly do you think they will believe me? No. Don’t be a hypocrite saying yeah I will believe him/her and whatsoever but in reality people who smiles and looking so tough are the ones who is really having a hard time and just can talk about it because it might seem so weird and kind of just looking for attention because he/she doing so great and even the ones who always do advice for the people’s problems and all. Not because someone is fine he/she is fine. If you really love or concern about that someone don’t push him/her to open and talk about that immediately, what I am saying is that let them also feel safe and not alone in the path that they are walking into.

THANK. YOU. A word uhmmmm yeah a word. Anyways, does saying thank you can be so difficult? Yeah, I guess so if you are not really fond of saying things like that or in lay man’s term not expressive. It is not actually bad to be not expressive as others because even I, I am really not expressive before since I just don’t know I just feel so awkward saying it to other people specially my family which I realize now that it is not good. Well, in a sense that how can people feel warmth? When someone made a good thing or the best thing that you can receive in this world saying thank you won’t do any harm, right? Those 2 words can be so great to be said and also great to be heard. One of the best feelings in the world is to feel that in some way you have done something nice or even great and you really do have a purpose somehow, right? In additions to that isn’t saying thank you is much more great then saying sorry all the time? Like instead of saying “Sorry, I promise I won’t do it again.” You can just say that “Thank you for forgiving me I really appreciate it.” Well, I know we can’t do things like that in a blink of an eye, but if we try or practice right now we will get used to it. Instead of sounding negative you can do it positively.

HOW. ABOUT. YOU. Well, me? I am also doing fine. Then viola end of the greetings and go straight into chit chatting about some gossips. To think that it is actually normal, I mean there is really nothing wrong about that. My point is that if you really are doing that out of concern, even out of curiosity or just merely to say something or to start up your conversations. Well I guess there is something bigger matter to show, than ending with the sentence “I am fine too.” If you really answer the question “How about you?” sincerely and came from the bottom of your heart (legit) for sure you will think things would get too serious or too awkward. But in all in all can you think why would people ask that during before times? Isn’t to know what the person really feels? Or if the person is still good in all aspects (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually)? This sentence or question can really be so deep or it is really deep already I suppose?

Do you get my points? If not, let me sum it all up for you. When someone said “I am fine.” it doesn’t really mean they are fine. Remember that people always tend to lie because it is one of their defense mechanism to let other people not belittle them or for them not to feel inferior in other people. Thank you isn’t just the staple answer to be said especially when you are just blurting out, it can also mean “Thank you for your concern I appreciate it.” “How about you?” it is not just a three word phrase where there is just no sense to be told. It is also not just asked to show some respect because he/she asked you. Therefore, you should ask him/her back, it is just sometimes expression of gratitude and to let the other person feel that he/she is also not alone and he/she is there also for him/her. The assurance is not always needed to be said out loud. Sometimes by just letting that person asked you, one of the simplest phrase in this world it can be a very big impact on the both of you or even there is a just a better story to be told.